Is There Something Wrong With Me?
July 29th, 2010The incredible pain caused by cheating might have given you second thoughts on giving him a second chance. He asking for a second chance seems really surreal. You might still be reeling from the blow of the cheating issue when your cheating ex husband asked for a second chance.
So, he wants a second chance? It might not be going to be productive this time especially if the wounds are still fresh. You may want to heal yourself first before sorting everything out with him. If not you will always reheat the cheating every breakfast. First, think it over. Second, consider two sides of every coin. Third, prepare for some more heartache. Finally, do the ‘risk.’
Is He Worthy for that Second Chance?
If you ask he is worth your time? Yes. If you are afraid and muddled up with the consequences of giving him a second chance then you are in. It is normal to feel anxious when one is taking risk. Anyway, who doesn’t feel apprehensive and nervous? This is marriage that we are talking about and not just any ordinary risk taking that sociopaths do.
Have you reached that point? Do you feel that your life is much better, healthier, and ultimately happier without him in it? You should never stick with someone because you have history or you love them alone. No matter what the romance novels will tell you, the fact that you love him does not make a relationship with him a good choice for you.
Loving him is not enough to keep the relationship smooth sailing again. You have to slowly dive deeper to see the bottom of the water to see if there are still unresolved issues. Remember the saying, “Shame on him if he fooled you once; Shame on you if he fooled you twice.”
Taking the Risk
Put in another way, ‘Are you willing to risk your heart for that second chance? Do you think giving him a break will make everything okay?’ Or do you believe that he is sincere enough to be willing to face the consequences of his decision? There is no point in reading this part if you don’t believe in his capability to be loyal and honest this time.
Well, there are no guarantees that he will be. What you can do is to first believe that this second chance will turn out well. The risk may be too big, but you’ll never know what is in store for you, if you don’t risk. Anyway, both of you deserve to live a happy married life. Marriages never go on without having to face problems just like this. The greatest test a relationship may have is the test of honesty. Choosing to give and break up may not give you the necessary shield to fight another marital issue that will probably occur in the future.
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