Trust Is Key When Attempting To Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back
Sunday, August 22nd, 2010We will look at 7 distinct approaches to building trust in your relationship with your ex. All to often these keys are passed over as unimportant compared to keeping things “interesting” with variety. Far more critical to your relationship is being predictable. With that, here are the 7 things that will improve your bond with your ex just by building the trust level.
Right off the bat we’ll talk about being predictable as mentioned in the first paragraph. Often we are told to keep things “interesting” in order to keep the heat on. Yes, having dinner out at a new romantic bistro or giving him a token of affection are thoughtful, but first things first – guys need things to be steady and well, predictable. Trust is built on consistent daily reliability.
Next, you need to make sure that your words always match the message. This means that your partner needs to hear the words which match your body language. If you say you are happy but you are frowning, your partner doesn’t hear your words, he or she sees your face and the tone in your voice. Your parter needs to be able to trust what you are saying. When the words match the message, you build trust in a relationship.
Thirdly, we each need to feel strongly about the others’ level of responsibility. This is vital if there is to be trust between two mature adults. When we need to tell someone we love something that may “hurt” them, the truth will never make a lasting pain. If you don’t think he is responsible or competent, you damage trust between you.
Next, do not be secretive with your partner. Keeping secrets have more potential to do harm than anything between two people. The web of lies that come with secret keeping is deadly to a long lasting relationship. Even if it may hurt at first, tell all.
Fifth, don’t be afraid to let your partner know what your needs are. Don’ t make him or her guess what you need. Let them know. It is okay to be self-centered as long as you are not selfish. Indeed, if you are reluctant to assert your needs, you may go overboard in the opposite direction and smother your partner.
Another thing to remember when building trust is to be able to say “no”. It is a good thing when he voices is wants or needs but that doesn’t mean you should say yes to everything! Not at all. He will respect you more if you let him know that you won’t or can’t do something he requests. This is a powerful aspect of building trust in a mature relationship.
Finally, always pursue growth. When you plant a flower, you begin by digging in the dirt. Digging in the dirt of our relationships can sometimes cause pain. But, through that pain, we prepare the soil for future growth. Don’t be afraid of turmoil, crisis, or questions. These become the fertilizer for growth and change. Embrace what is difficult.
These seven keys for building trust are foundational to a strong and lasting relationship. Yes, you will have times of pain. But it is when you work through the pain together you will both be better for it.
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