Cycling Is A Success While The Marriage Fails
Lance Armstrong won the Tour de France so many times, despite the bitterness of the French press that tried to discredit him time and again, that it astonishes us. He rose from cancer victim to cancer conqueror to cycling victor. He was determined. At times he fell behind other cyclists in different stages of the races. Reportedly, falling behind was on purpose so he could conserve his strength for more difficult stages. Other times, it was because someone, perhaps a sprinter, put on a burst of speed and outdid him. Whatever, he kept himself from being discouraged, figured out how he could have done better, and charged forth again with victory in mind.
Nevertheless, champion though he was on the bicycle, he was a dud when it came to marriage and relationships.
With several legitimate and illegitimate children to his credit and discredit, he seems to show no regret, at least publicly, over his apparent failure as a good husband or father. We say that because if he were a good husband, he would have worked on preserving his marriage, and wouldn’t have a bevy of “relationships” behind him. His legitimate children would still have a full time father, and his other children wouldn’t have to carry the stigma of illegitimacy around with them all of their lives. Yes, we are aware that it’s not such a big deal as it was a few decades ago, but children born out of wedlock do have a great void in their lives.
Perhaps the fact that he reportedly was an illegitimate child, himself, that his birth father left him and his mother, and that his mother had married and divorced three times, had something to do with his attitude toward marriage and relationships Or perhaps it was his lack of faith as an agnostic. He is quoted as saying: At the end of the day, if there was indeed some body or presence standing there to judge me, I hoped I would be judged on whether I had lived a true life…
A true life? Excuse us? Yes, he was true to cycling and although he doesn’t realize it, many people were praying for him to be successful, including us, for his courage was admirable. But no, he wasn’t true in his personal life. Or so it appears. However, since we don’t know the man personally, it could be that he would have been true had his wives been true. We don’t know who was at fault, but if he is like the majority of men, and especially since he had to be gone much of the time to chase his career, it is likely that he didn’t meet his marriage responsibilities properly and the marriages were in trouble.
Every marriage should have, as its goal, love that reaches the arte level, the Greek word for excellence. “That’s easy,” says the newlywed who is still starry-eyed and the truth hasn’t hit the fan yet. “We’re doing fine,” says the husband who hasn’t a clue that his wife is unhappy. “I’ve settled for less than what I desire,” says the wife who has given up hope.
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Be willing to put the same indomitable spirit into making your marriage a triumphant journey in life as Lance Armstrong has done to become a worldwide champion; so that, unlike him, you can save your marriage and give your children that wonderful knowledge that they have stable, loving parents who will keep things together. We give you the tools and the keys for doing just that. Come join us now for a sparkling future in your marriage.
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