How To Get Your Wife Back and Avoid Getting a Divorce
So, your wife wants a divorce, but you do not. Now where does that leave you? Not in a happy situation, my friend.
Maybe she will not talk to you about reconciliation, or worse – she is already dating someone else.
You are not ready to throw away your marriage just like that. Maybe there are innocent children involved. Maybe even pets. This gloomy situation is affecting the lives of more than just two people.
The thought of not seeing her every day is more than you can take. Thinking of her with some other guy makes you insane.
There are some specific steps you can take to help you get a discussion going with your wife. Every situation is different, but these steps will help you get the best possible results.
1. Back Off
Tell her that both of you need some alone time to think. If she’s been avoiding you, then she probably thinks you will chase after her. Surprise her and do just the opposite. Don’t act desperate. You lived just fine before you met her, and you will go on living even if you do not get her back. It will change her attitude toward you if you just calm down and exert some independence. Give her space for now and do not be clingy.
If she will not answer your calls, then leave her this message or send her a text. Then, DO NOT contact her for a week or two. (Don’t worry about what she is doing during this time because you have no control over it anyway.)
2. Honesty Is the Best Policy
She will most likely be open to talking when she sees you go on with your life without her. Someone out of reach is usually more attractive. Now is the time to play it cool and not lay a guilt trip on her or try to get sympathy. Be honest about things that were bad in your marriage in the past and present. Do not avoid painful subjects or deny bad things that you did.
3. Forgive Her
Along with all this honesty may come some things that you find unpleasant. This might be things she has said or done. Or it might be things she points out about you. Remember, the ultimate goal is to save the marriage, not point fingers. Forgive her if you want forgiveness for yourself.
4. Don’t Play the Kids (Or Anyone Else) Against Her
If you have kids, you should never, ever use them against her. This hurts every person involved, but most of all the children. Refrain from talking to them AT ALL about the relationship. Just assure them that both of your love them and that everything will work out okay, then leave it at that.
Use the same approach with anyone else you know. If you get back together, it will be very difficult if you have aired all your dirty laundry to the world, not to mention embarrassing. It’s great to have one or more close friends you can confide in, but don’t tell all your friends.
Always keep you dignity in place and show her respect, even if she does not return the favor.
5. Use the 10/10 List
This is a great instrument to help get things under control and out in the open. Each of you take a sheet of paper and draw a line down the middle. On one side write down the 10 things you love best about her. One the other side write down the 10 things that drive you crazy. Have her do the same. Most women will jump at the opportunity to do this and get things off their chest.
You will both be amazed at what comes to light with this simple exercise.
6. Get a New Hobby
What does this have to do with your wife? Everything! An innovative, dynamic person is attractive and exciting. Show her you are just as interesting as any other guy out there. She will see you in a new light. This will also keep your mind occupied and introduce you to some new friends to help fill your time.
7. Get Into a Good Bible-Based Church
Something about attending church together tends to bring couples closer together. There are also many activities designed for couples and families in most churches that encourage wholesome family ties. You also get free couples and/or family counseling in a lot of churches. If you pick a church that is not right for you, then try another. Don’t give up.
If she does not attend church with you, don’t let that stop you. Again, this will help you on many levels, especially meeting new people.
Relationships can usually be saved if both people really love each other. The more time you have invested, the more important it is to save your marriage. If you think rationally and act calmly, it is possibel to work most situations out.
Now, get in there and get her back. You can do it!
Angela Christian Pope has a psychology degree and has vast experience counseling couples. For a comprehensive blueprint to save your marriage please visit Get Your Wife Back. This somewhat amusing blueprint has worked for thousands. It will work for you too!
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